let it down

all dreamers pass this way

bridgemountain:

your-lies-ruin-lives:

Consent can be revoked at any time for any reason.
Consent can be revoked at any time for any reason.
Consent can be revoked at any time for any reason.
Consent can be revoked at any time for any reason.
Consent can be revoked at any time for any reason.

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(via withwomen)

Anonymous asked: When a doctor asks if I'm "sexually active" do they mean recently had sex or are they asking if I'm a virgin?

themidwifeisin:

Good question.

Usually they want to know if you’re currently having sex, but some want to know if you’ve had sex in the past.  

In that situation, you have two options for responding. 

  • You could give all the info straight up so that they don’t have to fish around for answers.  For example, “I am not currently sexually active, but I first had penis-in-vagina sex when I was 14.  I am currently dating a woman and we are talking about opening up our relationship to sexual activity soon.”
  • You could ask your own question back to see what they really want out of it.  For example, “Do you mean am I sexually active now, or if I’ve ever been?” or “What information are you trying to get out of that question?”

Because I am a healthcare provider and because I trust my healthcare providers, I believe in really sharing with your provider.  It helps me best serve my patients when I really understand what is bothering them, what they need out of a treatment, what they want out of their sexual relationships.  I don’t want to send someone home with a treatment or a birth control that won’t work with their life style, but I’m sure that sometimes it happens because I haven’t gotten the right information or all the information from the patient.  I try to do what I can, but it is super helpful when my patients skip the fishing session and just tell me straight up what the situation is.  I love it when my patients are honest with me about the type of sex they have because then I can factor that in to my decision making.